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My Baby Mama

Posted: September 05, 2013

When I was young, I remember my friend telling me that his parents were getting a divorce.  This was a big deal back then.  I remember just staring at him, not knowing what to say.  My tough friend was broken and teary eyed.  Over the years, of course, things have changed.  The typical family unit has deteriorated and new terms like 'baby mama' have been added to our vernacular.  Last week I was listening to the radio and heard that many young people have never been to a wedding.  It's hard to imagine.  The family structure has been under attack and dysfunctional families are all around us. 

My heart really goes out to people who have severe dysfunction in their families.  Adult children that refuse to speak to their parents, siblings that hate each other, young children who are abandoned or abused.  I'm sure we all know people in these and many other similar situations.  It seems no matter how hard people try to bury their hurt and anger, the wounds stay open when it comes to family pain.  God's genetic coding of family is so strong that we watch young people join gangs trying to achieve a sense of belonging.  Young people who are willing to kill and die for their psuedo-families.

One thing I love about our spiritual community is that we get the opportunity to model and become a functional family.  I think this is so important and worth the effort.  Many of us have been so hurt in the past, by negative church experiences, that we feel there is no hope of establishing true friendship and deep relationships with our brothers and sisters in Christ.  However, God has provided structure for the spiritual family with examples throughout the New Testament.  I believe these are best fleshed out in a true community fellowship.



We tend to skip over some portions of the Bible, reading them more like history than inspiration.  One such portion is in the gospel of John 19:25-27, 'Now there stood by the cross of Jesus His mother, and His mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary Magdalene. When Jesus therefore saw His mother, and the disciple whom He loved standing by, He said to His mother, “Woman, behold your son!” Then He said to the disciple, “Behold your mother!” And from that hour that disciple took her to his own home.'

Interesting that one of the last acts of Christ, right before His death, was the establishment of a family relationship between two people that were not blood relatives. I wonder if that is still the heart of Christ. My wife and I have no natural relatives in the Milwaukee area but we have developed real family relationships within our group.  I think this is so vital for a healthy overall spiritual life and certainly shows the world that loving functional families can still exist.  My prayer is that we all 'behold' each other.

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